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🕊️ The Mother of Hope
Practicing Real Self-Compassion
“Self-compassion is the mother of hope. When we hold ourselves in love and acceptance, every good feeling becomes possible again.”
Hi friends,
I want to talk about self-compassion today because it’s been much needed lately in my own life and in the lives of my clients.
🎢 This week has been an emotional rollercoaster. I’ve been implementing new systems in my business, learning new tech, and building this newsletter. It’s been a massive stretch and a big investment of time and energy. Some days I’ve spent ten hours straight in my office working on one thing. Eeek! 😫
I believe that what makes a coach great isn’t how perfect she is. It’s how willing she is to do the work when she’s in the middle of her own emotional 💩 storm. Integrity is one of my top core values as a coach, and this week I’ve had to live it!
I’ve been doing the work daily because I’ve needed it. This is what self-compassion looks like in real life. It’s not the easy moments that need it. It’s when you’re triggered. It’s when you believe the lie that you’re not enough, that you can’t do it, or that maybe you should just quit. (As I’ve been thinking this past week.) 🙈
Those are the moments when self-compassion matters most. What those thoughts need is not shame or judgment but belief. They need to be believed as true for just long enough to be felt as seen, heard, and understood. That’s what allows them to move through and pass. When you validate the hard truth of what’s real for you in that moment, you create space for it to move. The emotion releases. You cry. Neutrality returns. Ahhhh, the relief of neutrality. And then comes hope- Yay!
💨 When the dust settles after sitting with difficult thoughts and emotions, relief cues in hope’s return. It’s like sunlight peeking through a dark shade. The heaviness lifts. Suddenly things don’t feel so bleak. I can see possibility again. I can trust that what I’m doing is working, even when the short term feels brutally hard.
💊 That’s the medicine of self-compassion. It’s not optional, it’s mandatory for nurses, coaches, mothers, career women, and anyone creating something big or new in their life.
Even if someone else speaks encouragement or hope to you, you’re the one who has to let it in. No one else can do that part for you. It was never them. It’s always been you.
💥 Self-compassion is the superpower of the woman who becomes the hero in her own story. That’s who I am to me and who you are to you, even if you don’t know it yet. (Stick around here long enough and you will)
💖 The Practice of Self-Compassion
What does it look like in real time?
As an Emotional Mastery Coach and Nurse, there are a few truths I hold close when I’m anxious, exhausted, or doubting myself.
💛 1st truth: I always have my own medicine. No one else can give me the validation, healing, or answers I need.
💛 2nd truth: No emotion lasts forever. Not sadness. Not fear. Not shame. Not even joy. Every feeling eventually passes, especially when I stop fighting or fearing it.
The other day I had one of those “I want to quit my business” moments. When I heard myself say it, I softened instead of judging it. I let myself have the thought and the tears that came with it. In that permission, the pressure lifted. The feeling passed. And hope returned.
When those hard moments come, I turn to this simple grounding practice I share with my clients. It helps you reconnect to your body and meet yourself with compassion instead of resistance. Give it a try!
🩵 The Self-Compassion Pause
1. Pause
Stop whatever you’re doing.
Acknowledge that you’re having a hard moment.
Say to yourself, “This is a moment of struggle. I choose to pause.”
2. Breathe
Take a slow, deep breath in through your nose.
Exhale through your mouth.
Let your breath remind you that you are safe right now.
Repeat a few times and let your shoulders soften.
3. Ground
Notice your body.
Feel your feet on the floor, the chair supporting you, and the air around you.
Say to yourself, “I’m here. I’m safe. I can be with this moment.”
4. Allow
Don’t rush to fix the feeling. Let it be there.
Whisper to yourself, “It’s okay to feel this.”
Let the emotion rise and fall like a wave, knowing it will pass.
When you feel a bit more settled, place your hand over your heart and say,
“I’m doing my best. I can be gentle with myself right now.”
Every time you pause, breathe, and allow yourself to be where you are, you strengthen the muscle of emotional safety. That’s how confidence grows from the inside out.
🤔 Reflection Question…
How can you show yourself a little more compassion this week and trust that it’s enough?
Hit reply and tell me. I’d love to celebrate you and maybe feature your story in a future newsletter!
📑 Resources for You
1️⃣ If you want to go deeper into this practice, I recommend Kristin Neff, Ph.D. She is one of the world’s leading researchers on self-compassion.
2️⃣ And because I know how powerful it is to experience this instead of just reading about it, I created a guided tapping meditation just for you!
Try it this week. It’s short, grounding, and helps you reconnect with your inner kindness when your self-critic gets loud.
🤌 EFT Tapping: Letting Go of Self-Criticism & Embracing Self-Compassion
3️⃣ If you’d like to join me in person for a deeper experience, come to my next group tapping event TONIGHT & introduce yourself to me. We’ll release fear, calm the nervous system, and return to peace together.
🎃 EFT Tapping: Unburdening Fear & Anxiety to Create Inner Peace & Calm
📍 Quantum Wellness, Bedminster, NJ
📅 October 22 | 6:30–8:00 PM
